The In-Laws
JustBecks' recent visit to his BF's hometown in Batu Pahat inspired me to write this post about in-laws. Have you ever met your "mother-in-law"? If you have, does she even know that you're her "son-in-law"? In my case, I have met my "mother-in-law" and KH has met his. However, there is a big difference in our experience. KH has only met my mother once and that occasion also marks my coming out to my family. Ever since that day, I have kept KH under wraps for fear that she might remember him. Truth be told, KH wants to meet her. During CNY, he even suggested that I hide him among a group of friends. I wouldn't want to take the chance. Sigh.
As for me, I have met KH's mother for many times. I have sat down to lunch with her and visited her at home. And she knows who I am. And most importantly she knows who I am to her beloved son. It's not like she ignores me or gives me the cold treatment, but sometimes I just feel more comfortable not facing her. SK has told me that his mum sometimes talks indirectly to me. In a roundabout way. I don't know whether that is good or bad, or perhaps that's just her way of coping with me. Whenever KH is back in KL and goes out, she'll just state matter-of-factly:
"Out with William ah?"
Her tone of voice is not approving, but I guess its not outwardly disapproving either. When I pick him up from his apartment, more often than not his mum would be looking out from the balcony to confirm if its me. Hmmm... I wonder when I'll get comfortable around her.
What's your experience?
As for me, I have met KH's mother for many times. I have sat down to lunch with her and visited her at home. And she knows who I am. And most importantly she knows who I am to her beloved son. It's not like she ignores me or gives me the cold treatment, but sometimes I just feel more comfortable not facing her. SK has told me that his mum sometimes talks indirectly to me. In a roundabout way. I don't know whether that is good or bad, or perhaps that's just her way of coping with me. Whenever KH is back in KL and goes out, she'll just state matter-of-factly:
"Out with William ah?"
Her tone of voice is not approving, but I guess its not outwardly disapproving either. When I pick him up from his apartment, more often than not his mum would be looking out from the balcony to confirm if its me. Hmmm... I wonder when I'll get comfortable around her.
What's your experience?
Comments
now abt speaking frm my own experiences with the Jehovah Witnesses in laws, ah you already knew, lolz.
The most is they will treat you civilly, and that's all you can ask for.
They will go "oooooooohhhh, no wonder...". :P
@Nase:
Maybe Jehovah Witnesses are easier to handle. :P. But I lack your "si lai sat sau" skills le...
@Legs:
Civility is fine by me!
@Savante:
Which part is cool? That she doesn't strangle me? :P
@Grat:
I'm trying!
@Evann:
She has a good eye. 0.o. She's on to you.
@Simon:
I agree!
@Derek:
Dress as a girl!
@Cheryl:
A high risk project!
the big problem with trying to gain everybody's approval is gaining everybody's approval. life is simpler when you only try to please the people that matter, and in the long run, the in-laws don't.
@Will:
Well, at least you don't get all those dramas shouting at you and stop his son from seeing you again. It's never easy to accept gayism in our country. At least there is a process. *sigh*, wish you all the best. *hug*