Bill, Revisited
In the course of our lives, we meet many people. Friends, acquaintances. People you just meet everyday. And it makes sense to be civil with each other. To find common ground. To build up a camaraderie. However, I have always felt that some connections we make last longer than others. Some are merely exist due to circumstances, encounters due to work commitments, study commitments. We seem to enjoy each others' company. Have fun. Talk cock. And that's just about it. We merely skirt the surface. We never talk of personal issues. Feelings. We keep that fenced off. Private. It's like we put on a mask. It never goes deeper. And so, we never REALLY know each other. It's a two way thing I guess. Sometimes we are afraid to ask. To show genuine concern. To care. And most of the times, we are afraid to tell, to appear vulnerable. Admittedly, it is difficult to open up, to find the right people to bare our soul. Trust is a difficult thing to build. And I guess, it is the core in any relationship.
Phew. What a long-winded introduction. Now to the point. After a couple of meet ups Bill, I have found him to be a person who has the interest and the drive to delve deeper into a person. To really get to know you. He's not satisfied with skin-deep, but if possible, he'd like to have a feel of the entrails, so to speak. I wouldn't call it prying, but merely a sincere intention to understand another human being. Open lines of communications. Nothing muddled. All clear. Feelings made known. He reminds me very much of KH, the person I love.
And I guess, with just a little effort, we can afford to make each of our relationships bloom into something that we would treasure for a long time.
Here's to you, Bill.
Phew. What a long-winded introduction. Now to the point. After a couple of meet ups Bill, I have found him to be a person who has the interest and the drive to delve deeper into a person. To really get to know you. He's not satisfied with skin-deep, but if possible, he'd like to have a feel of the entrails, so to speak. I wouldn't call it prying, but merely a sincere intention to understand another human being. Open lines of communications. Nothing muddled. All clear. Feelings made known. He reminds me very much of KH, the person I love.
And I guess, with just a little effort, we can afford to make each of our relationships bloom into something that we would treasure for a long time.
Here's to you, Bill.
Comments
I even have situation with a long-time friend where we have sort of grown apart in terms of the circle of friends we hang around with and yet he still regularly meets up with me and asks about my personal life. Not surprisingly, he's one of the few people I go to if I have personal problems, not those people I hang out most with.
It is always our yearning as human beings wanting to build trust with each other, to care genuinely for others. Only when our wave length resonate with each other, we share the sheer joy of understanding another human being and the ecstasy of being understood!
I like the style of writing and the different thoughts and feelings that your blog will bring forth to others.
Thank you for such a wonderful blog!
I have come to a crossroad adn wonder how to define friends. Been hurt and betrayed, yes trusyt is indeed very difficult to build. Not to mention, rebuild.
The only thing I know now is to constantly improve myself to become a better person. Coz depends on others is just not reliable for me.
Good friends like these are hard to find, aren't they?
Sometimes it's easier to tell people that are "detached" from the problem.
@Imeku:
*blush* I'm glad that my blog has resonated with you.
@Ryan:
But then, no man is an island.
@Jan:
Alcohol and heterosex hor? Haha.
@JL:
I was half-expecting a quote from a famous persona. :P
@Savante:
Not to "please" him la. :P
@FireH:
Sometimes we just don't click with certain people.
@QueerR:
Not as sweet as you. :P
@DanielH:
Shssssssshhh...!!
@Bill:
Thank you too!