Angry With Someone You Love
"It's not unusual to be mad with anyone"
"It's not unusual to be sad with anyone"
Is it true that we more easily show our anger to those we love? When facing outsiders, we are more patient. We maintain a veneer of civility and tolerance that we do not usually reserve for the ones we care for. Is it true that we tend to be more caustic, have a shorter fuse even? Is this fair? It's such a contradiction. Yet it happens everyday. It happens to me, heck, even I do it. Most of the time, I regret lashing out. The outcome always drags me down. Regret hangs heavily on me. Libran genes. Damn. Oh, how I wish I can think with a more level head. Gauge the situation before I open my mouth. Sounds fake? I guess if we love someone, we should do something to keep things loving. You happy. I happy. Am glad that with KH, I dare to ask and he dares to answer. Things are simple. Sincere.
"It's not unusual to be loved by anyone"
Thank you, Tom Jones.
"It's not unusual to be sad with anyone"
Is it true that we more easily show our anger to those we love? When facing outsiders, we are more patient. We maintain a veneer of civility and tolerance that we do not usually reserve for the ones we care for. Is it true that we tend to be more caustic, have a shorter fuse even? Is this fair? It's such a contradiction. Yet it happens everyday. It happens to me, heck, even I do it. Most of the time, I regret lashing out. The outcome always drags me down. Regret hangs heavily on me. Libran genes. Damn. Oh, how I wish I can think with a more level head. Gauge the situation before I open my mouth. Sounds fake? I guess if we love someone, we should do something to keep things loving. You happy. I happy. Am glad that with KH, I dare to ask and he dares to answer. Things are simple. Sincere.
"It's not unusual to be loved by anyone"
Thank you, Tom Jones.
Comments
simply bcoz he is someone I care for...
(1) Same as m5lvin said: it's because you care. If it's a stranger, you nod and keep your thoughts to yourself
(2) Expectations: you expect your loved ones to know you well enough not to do or say certain things or to understand, without words at times, how you feel. No such expectations from strangers
(3) Taking for granted: taking your loved ones for granted. Yes, this is the worst reason.
Except for (3), (1) & (2) are double-edged: can help your loved ones or drive them away. Need to find the fine line.
I guess its a balance.
-ve and +ve
but then learn to control anger too... and a healthy relationship need to have some ups and downs... if it's all ups or all downs.. then it's abnormal..
Is so true that we' tend to show the real emotions with the one we love.We wanna show our true feelings to each other. Is good if both parties understand and love each other well. Somehow, i found sometimes, some anger and arguments will just bind each other closer to one and another. But the toleration and level of understanding have to be at a certain point. Or else i dont think any relationship will survive.
For I think truly true love can never be angry, never ...
You can look at it this way too: anger is not a sign of love but of expectations, namely of higher expectations in someone whom you have invested "love" and not getting the expected returns.
Such a relationship is not love, but a trading one, give and take, buy and sell ...
This inhibition is lifted when we're with people whom we feel comfortable to be ourself.
"Being happy doesn't mean everything is perfect. It means you have decided to look beyond the imperfections." Unknown.
Cheers :)
Which is why I have my weekly quarrels with the bf :P
The trick: don't keep things bottled up, discuss them as they happen. But that's easier said than done.
Vulnerable. Never thought of that.
@M5l:
The psych student speaks! Good point.
JJ:
Wah! So many points! Yes, expectations. That's a killer. Stress. Taking someone for granted. That's another pitfall too.
@QueerR:
We always veer dangerously close to the negative.
@Janvier:
Don't worry, nothing serious.
@Pikey:
Yeah, everytime someone gets angry with me, I feel sleepy.
@SK:
Scold like shit! Haha. I do the same.
@Muse:
As much as I don't like it, sometimes we have to make calculated moves.
@JL:
You always have a quotable quote!
@Savante:
Wow, pandainya kau justify!
@Will:
I'm a notorious bottler. Haha.