Great Expectations

A question for my fellow readers:

In a relationship, one is bound to have different expectations on issues. Hence,

Is it better to have no expectations at all as to avoid disappointment?

Comments

Z said…
I mean I'm for expecations. Haha.
Janvier said…
Well depends. There's sure to be some expectations if things a relationship wants to progress. Just how much of an expectation, that's a different matter.
Anonymous said…
To be alive is to have expectations. If you don't have expectations, you will not be disappointed, but you will be empty.

The question is, "How can I not be disappointed by different expectations?"
Jaded Jeremy said…
This is tricky. Inevitably there will be expectations. But perhaps should keep it low? And for sure never high expectaions. This is too much to think on a Friday night ;-)
daniel henry said…
silly of cuz there's is. there'll always be expectations. in life, whether it's for love, family, work etc, it exist. but it's whether you know how to let go of it when it doesn't come to your standards. dun sound so frust kay? ;o)
Anonymous said…
The issue with expectations is that we set them, but then we often fail to communicate what those expectations are. When someone fails to live up to our expectations, they often don't know that we have even established them. Disappointment is inevitable. Communication is the key.
Anonymous said…
Expectation is like a double edge sword. U cant live with it neither can u live with it. With out expectation, what are u aiming for? To expect something and to have tht expectation not met is just going to lead to dissapointment. So what do you do? Have expectations but also be readt to expect that those expectations might not be met.
Ganymede said…
No to expectations for me. Expectations only allows you to enjoy the experience when it exceeds the expectations.

With no expectations, you can fully enjoy whatever experiences that comes by.

We all can live a life of no expectations.
William said…
@Alan:
:)

@Janvier:
That's the problem. How to define "too much".

@Zemien:
I shall endeavour to reach Nirvana.

@JJ:
What if the expectation is really low already?

@DanielH:
So wise. :P

@Anon1: Anon2:
I shall try my best.

@QueerR:
You must the happiest person on earth!

@All:
Thanks for your input. Appreciate it!
Anonymous said…
What do you mean by expectations?

If you say you expect the sun to rise tomorrow, or that so and so will certainly turn up late, that is an entirely natural, perhaps habit-induced, behaviour.

But I don't think you meant this, but rather, an obligation, ie a return you expect to get for something you have done or not, or - to use an ugly word - for your investments.

But the moment a relationship is seen as an investment, thats the beginning of the end.

For then the relationship is all about manipulation to get what you want, or what you expected, for don't we need to get a certain rate of returns for our investments or else we are losers in this world.

You may then say, but love is not all about the other, for it is also about you own needs, and that there needs to be a balance of giving and receiving.

Bu then such is a trading relationship, which is also the essence of prostitution.

Rather love is mutual unconditional giving - painful most of the time - which has the appearance of trade but is not.

And conversely sex has the appearance of love but is not.

And prostitution is more honest, ie it is sex for some explicit returns, eg money, without any illusion or pretense of love.

But perhaps you meant yet another thing in expectations, do you?

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