Sunday, June 28, 2015

Will You Marry Me?

Marriage Equality

In the United States of America, the Supreme Court ruled by a 5-to-4 vote on Friday that the Constitution guarantees a right to same-sex marriage. Although in another continent, this landmark ruling caused a huge reaction in Malaysia with my FB stream cumming six colour rainbows the whole day! And its great to see even straight friends showing their support.

No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice, and family. In forming a marital union, two people become something greater than once they were. As some of the petitioners in these cases demonstrate, marriage embodies a love that may endure even past death. It would misunderstand these men and women to say they disrespect the idea of marriage. Their plea is that they do respect it, respect it so deeply that they seek to find its fulfillment for themselves. Their hope is not to be condemned to live in loneliness, excluded from one of civilization’s oldest institutions. They ask for equal dignity in the eyes of the law. The Constitution grants them that right.

On the subject of marriage, KH did broach the subject during our visit to Vancouver last year (Canada legalized same-sex marriage in 2005). He actually did some research and contacted a marriage commissioner (she had a cute e-mail handle-- itheewed) to try to arrange something.  She explained the procedures and requirements for a license and witnesses. Knowing how clueless people can be, she also readily suggested ideas for the ceremony:

"I'm attaching some ideas to help.  The sentences that are highlighted in yellow are legally required.   Other than that, you can have any words you want, as long as there are no religious references."

It's nice that they know how to properly separate between Church and State. At the time, it seemed all so ad hoc to me. I wasn't thrilled at the idea of getting a shotgun ceremony in a hotel room with random people as witnesses. To keep a long story short, we did not get married in Vancouver. But that does not mean that I rejected KH. Undoubtedly KH is my husband. Not a single day goes by that "I do" is absent in our thoughts and actions. Perhaps some day we will get that official piece of paper and celebrate surrounded by those we care about.

"I  choose you KH as my husband, my partner in life and my one true love. I will cherish our union and love you more each day than I did the day before. I will trust you and respect you, laugh with you and cry with you, loving you faithfully through good times and bad, regardless of the obstacles we may face together. I give you my hand, my heart, and my love, from this day forward for as long as we both shall live."

8 comments:

ernestlow said...

In the eyes of your readers, you and KH are already husband and wife and thanks for sharing facets of your love for each other with us!

Hdaran said...

When my friend first shared the news on Whatsapp for some reason I started tearing up...

I wish and pray, for you and KH, all the love, passion, and togetherness for lifetime!

Derek said...

Dear, you are also my beloved husband. Looking forward to spend the rest of our lives together, in good times and bad.

And thanks to all for the well wishes!

Anonymous said...

8 years together and still going strong. ^^
Does this mean you guys will migrate to Canada and marry there? All the best =)
-rainyday

William said...

@Ernest: @Hdaran:
:). Thanks for the support.

@Derek:
Love you baby! Muacks!

@Rainy:
Foreigners can marry in Canada. :)


Twilight Man said...

So manis and sweet! Ants coming all over me.

zerachiel said...

always remember this, ceremonies that include wedding, sometimes they aren't important, the bond between you and kh is already blessed by God, both of you were meant to be together and it was already written,that is more important, the society would probably never understand it, but it doesn't matter, what matters most is, both of you will age gracefully together, and inspire others on what love truly is, my prayers will always be there for both of you, in this chaotic society, to see two loving souls together is indeed beautiful :)

William said...

@Twi:
Ants? Bring out the the Ridsect. LOL

@Zerachiel:
Thanks for your kind words