Bollywood Engagement

Staleness Factor: 5/5

Some weekends back, Mel, my oldest friend from my Uni Perdana GPL (Goreng Pisang and Lekor) times got engaged to her boyfriend, BB. Was truly happy for her, because I had been through all the ups and downs with her. A veritable minefield of race (Mel's Indian, whereas BB's Punjabi), religion (Mel's Roman Catholic, while BB's a Sikh), in-laws and ex's. The happy occassion was very low-key with just BB's relatives, Mel's immediate family and a few select friends (score!). It was held at her new home in Kajang, so it was also kind of a house-warming too. Nobody knew how to get thee, so SK, my mum and I waited for her to guide us in. Due to unforeseen circumstances, she got delayed, so we killed time at the nearby Tesco. We were so over-dressed!

By the time we got there, we were already late. Most of the guests had arrived by the time we walked in with the ritual gifts (clothes, fruits, sweetcakes, a tray of chrysanthemum, rock sugar and a husked coconut dusted with cumin). I'm sure it was quite a sight for BB's relatives that Mel's entourage was half-Chinese. She looked resplendant in a beautiful red saree, accompanied by her parents and pregnant sister (she lost her blimp status the next day, giving birth to cute baby girl). SK drew stares too. Everyone else was in modest Punjabi suits, whereas she came in a short dress and started drinking beer on arrival. LOL.

At the start, things were quite awkward as there were many unfamiliar faces. However things got on track soon enough. An eye-opener for me, really. Never been to a Punjabi engagement ceremony before. Firstly, they seated Mel and BB on the couch. Then BB's mother put a scarf over her head. One by one, relatives came forward to give their blessings by circling dollar bills (I did that for her with my ang pau later in the night, :P) around their heads and feeding them with coconut candy. Rings were exchanged after a beautiful speech from Mel's dad. At the end, they cut a cake and fed each other, signalling the start of dinner.

After dinner, the guests started to leave. Towards the end of the night, we had our whisky cokes and camwhored a bit. Congratulations to Mel and BB again... Can't wait for the wedding.

Comments

nase said…
I still remember of my own experience to a Punjabi wedding in Hyderabad, India many years ago attending a former college mate's matrimony. There were elephants in garlands on parade, dances and fireworks as well in addition to the usual rituals one accustomed to in a Punjabi wedding which was nice and refreshing for a change compared to our Chinese rituals of 'yam char'. But there were no liquor served at the wedding though I managed to smuggle in a couple of Absolut vodkas to make the guests all the more merrier, lol. To justify myself, I explained and demonstrated our Chinese wedding ritual of 'yarmmmmmm seng'!
Little Dove said…
Staleness Factor as in dated events?

Good thing you blessed her with ang pow! ;)
Fable Frog said…
wakakaka, SK in short dress sipping beer? wakakakaka
Twilight Man said…
Congrats to Mel & BB. You should attend the Punjabi's gathering on their New Year at home. Your eyes would pop out. See all the men remove their big turbans and place on the dining table to eat. So cute to see a smaller 'kondek' on their head. LOL..
Prash said…
A veritable minefield of race (Mel's Indian, whereas BB's Punjabi)

btw, punjabi is also Indian ! ;-) LOL

I am an Indian and never been to a punjabi wedding or engagement ceremony. What a shame !
[chocoley] said…
Hey congarts to Mel & BB, tht was a kewl stuff, think you really had blast there XD
Cheryl said…
dear7, u sounds sarcastic! wear short dress cannot drink beer ar... no rules for that k?

but... really pai sei... like tak hormat tu...wear so terdedah and everyone else like tertutup teruk. Bad DEAR for not informing me..:P

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