Passing Fixation


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Swiped from mr.nz.
Have you ever had a fixation on something or someone that you saw in passing? The lack of information would make your mind work overtime to conjure up a perfect picture and you would be desperately pining for it. Wondering about the possibilities. No rest until you pursue it.

Case I:
Walking pass a clothing store, you see a shirt in the display window that catches your eye. From afar, it looks nice, cool. But due to some time constraints, you would have to walk away without scrutinizing it. Back home, that particular item of clothing would play in your mind, like an itch deep in your nether regions that wouldn't go away. You would obssess about it, telling yourself that you should have bought it and it would've looked nice in it. So, when you finally break and surrender to temptation, you would rush back to the store with a serious intent of buying the shirt, hoping that it's still available. Upon examining the garment and perhaps tryng it on, you would find that it's nothing to shout about. Not worth it. You would walk out empty-handed. You would say to yourself, "What was I thinking?".

Case II:
We see someone for the first time. The first impression is very good and we are immediately attracted though there was no exchange of words. No "getting to know you". Observing from afar, we find that each gesture and facial expression is priceless, and our mind fills in the blanks. Putting in a pleasant voice. Dreaming up the perfect personality. A caring soul. We are smitten. And yet, when we face reality, we find that the image we projected in our mind was really much better than the real thing. Like saying that masturbation is better than the sex. Heh.

In conclusion, I just wanna say that obsessing over something that is fleeting is really not worth risking the concrete things that we have in our lives. Take a better look. Get the facts. Weigh the pros and cons. Then and only then make the move. Take the risk. Don't regret only after the realisation dawns on you that you were actually chasing after a shadow, a pipe dream.

In the tradition of Karam Singh Walia (of TV3 fame):

"Yang dikejar tak dapat, yang dikendong keciciran..."

Or is this more accurate?

"Seperti anjing dengan bayang-bayangnya..."

Comments

Anonymous said…
hmm... fantasy..
Reality sucks...
adrien said…
aaah this post brings back many previous issues in which i've faced countless times before.

typically unavoidable situations that just whispers in your head from time to time.

an awakening from a dream. bleh.
Ganymede said…
Hmmmm sounds like me with Ze Nephew in my office. :P
Janvier said…
Haha scenario 1 happens a few times - which is why trying it on is important!
William said…
@SK:
Haha. Reality bites.

@Adrien:
A nightmare.

@Frankie:
Ze Nephew is straight!

@Janvier:
It always looks better in the changing room.

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